"A BASEBALL SWING IS A VERY FINELY TUNED INSTRUMENT. "
"IT IS REPETITION, AND MORE REPETITION, THEN A LITTLE MORE AFTER THAT."
"REGGIE JACKSON"
Aloha,
In a previous post, I addressed the question I get asked periodically by my NLP and Huna students: "I was doing so well but now I feel stuck. What am I doing wrong?" In that post, I talked about the possibility of "operator error as well as the natural "spiral" of personal and spiritual growth.
But there's one aspect I didn't mention: Repetition.
One of the beauties of NLP is how "instantly" people experience positive results. A skilled practitioner takes clients through a 15 minute process and-Voila!-a life-long habit or anxiety disappears! Even our Mental Emotional Release(R) process that unearths and releases some of our deepest blocks and limitations typically takes around 10 hours of intensive work.
And that's great! But it's also unfortunate.
Because personal and spiritual growth is not a one-shot deal. It's a lifetime practice.
Think of it this way: Doesn't it make sense that becoming a "virtuoso of life" would take the same amount of practice as becoming a virtuoso of anything else? If you want to learn to play just one short song on the piano, you might be able to take a few lessons and you're done. But to become a world-class pianist? That's an ongoing process.
In his book, "Outliers", Malcolm Gladwell wrote about the "10,000 hour rule," that it takes 10,000 hours to achieve mastery in any field. Though some psychologists argue that the "rule" is not a clear predictor of mastery, Gladwell cites some interesting studies:
Psychologist John Hayes studied the lives and work of seventy-six famous classical composers. He found that, in almost every case, these well-known composers did not create their greatest work until they'd been composing for ten years or more.
Another psychologist, K. Anders Ericsson, studied violin students at the elite Music Academy of West Berlin. He found that on average the "best" violinists practiced much more than the students who were just "good." All of these students were similarly talented, but what separated the "best from the rest" was how intently and how long they practiced their craft.
Researcher Robert Howard, of the University of New South Wales, published a paper about eight grandmasters in chess. He found that those in this group practiced for over fourteen thousand hours before they hit their highest ranking.
Is this 10,000 hour rule set in stone? Of course not. Some people required less time to become masters at their art while others required much more. The point is that no one becomes a virtuoso without a commitment to practice.
And so it is on the path of personal and spiritual growth. No matter how "evolved" you are, if you want to become a virtuoso of life, you need to commit to put in some hours of practice regularly. If you want to stay in physical shape, you need to keep exercising, right? If you want to be clean, you probably need to bathe daily, right?
I've been doing personal and spiritual growth work for over 30 years now, and I still use many of the most basic NLP techniques and Huna processes on a regular basis- just like I exercise and bathe on a regular basis!
The interesting thing is that your "practice" doesn't have to become more and more complex. Your practice just has to be consistent. It can include your consistent practice of ho'opono'pono or forgiveness. It can be consistently using your NLP re-framing techniques or noticing and releasing your limited beliefs as they pop up.
The good news is that life will give you plenty of material to work with, a constant flow of people and situations to help you peel back the many levels of who you are!
Until next time...
Mahalo!
Dr Matt
Reference: quickpua.blogspot.com
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Stephy Mouthful has a good relationship with Hongkong Musician Alex Fong.
Stephy Mouthful Contour and Biography:
Chinese Name:
English Name: Stephy Mouthful Lai Yun
Date Of Birth: October 15th, 1983
Engine capacity Of Birth: Hong Kong
Weight: 48 kg
Height: 166 cm
Blood Type: O
Shoe Size: 8 (US)
Interests: Playing tennis, before a live audience and dancing
Languages: Cantonese, English and Mandarin
Entered entertainment by a modelling company
Music Company: Golc Request
Favourite Singers: Faye Wong Cheung Ai Ga
Favourite Colour: glum
ALBUMS
Cookies:
Agile Wedding anniversary (2002)
Sprightly Christmas (2002)
Baby Cookies:
All the Perfectly (2003)
4 Fiddle (2004)
4 in Dear (2004)
Solo:
Have a shower Stephy (2005)
Stephy Delight (2006)
Dating Stephy (2007) NEW!
Ride
Aqua Heroes (2003)
Cinema
Nine Girls and a guts (2002)
Appearance 100% (2003)
Dragon Ironic (2003)
Dating Departure (2004)
My Toffee (2004)
Wedding Along with a Fool (2006)
Dear @ Beforehand Facts (2006)
Dear Is Not All Approximately (2007) NEW!
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From the book, "Will I Ever Be Good Enough?" [read this if you are an ACON: Adult Child of a Narcissist]
I am 45 years old and realizing I have more to break free from when it comes to my mother and the view of myself. Being middle-aged and "afraid" of your mother is rather silly isn't it? I have seen blogs though where some 60 somethings admit the same. Keep in mind us Aspies are late-bloomers. I am realizing at this advanced age, how behind I got on so many things. One thing I am asking myself, is "Can I pull off a turn around at this late age?"
One part of the healing from a narcissistic parent, is realizing that validation you yearned for is never going to be there. THIS FANTASY THAT ONE DAY MY MOTHER, WOULD PAT MY HEAD, AND SAY "I AM SO SORRY!" IS NEVER GOING TO HAPPEN. SHE IS NEVER GOING TO RUN TO THE FOOT OF ONE OF MY HOSPITAL BEDS, AND CRY TEARS AND BRING ME CUPS OF TEA. MY SISTER IS NEVER GOING TO HUG ME, AND SAY "I LOVE YOU" OR TELL HER CHILDREN, "AUNT PEEP IS SO FUN!" EVEN IF THE FEW TIMES I SAW THEM, I'D LOVE TO DO ART LESSONS WITH THEM. I SUPPOSE ONE PART OF GROWING UP EVEN IN LATTER ADULTHOOD, IS ACCEPTING WHAT "IS", NOT WHAT YOU WISH THINGS WERE.
One may ask how long can you cry over your mother and father never loving you? Dr Laura, would say "GET OVER IT!" and I read her book 15 years ago, that said just that! I didn't want to be one of those people laying in a corner weeping till I was 60 that my mommy and daddy hated me. Some observers would say, "You can't blame your parents for the way your life turned out!" Thats true, but we can admit some of the influences and history. My parents didn't destroy the US economy or make newspapers obsolete affecting my husband's career, or invent autoimmune diseases after all. I chose my own professions and even my own religion.
While I discussed my past abuse with my two best friends for years who by the way both had narcissistic mothers of their own to contend with, for some reason middle-age brought some kind of odd crises where I couldn't ignore what was happening to me anymore and where disrespect and covert stuff was being carried into late adulthood.
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During my 20s, enough walk-outs ended overt verbal stuff, but I couldn't stop any of the covert stuff no matter what I did! What a misery! I was low contact and only saw the woman on average 6 times a year for 4-7 hours, but so much craziness was stirred behind the scenes, so much mean things said to me when no one was in the room. I knew there never would be any respect, there never would be any change. She didn't care to hear my side of the story she only cared about her own. Who wants to spend years and years defending yourself to people where INVALIDATION is the given?
Even there I hung in far longer because I did truly need help a few times. A few times, years ago, after the abandoned years in the ghetto, she was generous, but oh what a pound of flesh. I only asked for help when incredibly desperate and there were plenty of times, I did not and went without food, medicine or other necessary items. My 20s, I was fully cut off, so there was no asking for any favors so this was more in my early 30s. She never neglected to throw it in my face either, and how lack of financial blessings were supposedly all my own fault.
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The word "LOSER" was duct-taped to my forehead pretty early on as if I had spent my teens smoking pot and getting drunk every night instead of studying and working at a local restaurant. It stayed there, even during the time I graduated from college and was an art teacher at an alternative school because I didn't "make enough money". When I told her, I had to go on disability, she was personally offended and said, "Why do you have to do that, so you can "laze" around the house all day?". I had been in the ER 10 times that year for breathing problems and hospitalized at least for a total of 6 weeks. Even my job had demoted me to night shift because I could no longer handle the rigors of day shift.
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What a set up to always feel in the wrong, to always feel like nothing I did was ever right. This is the set-up that leaves many adult children of narcissists carrying incredible burdens and being open to the predatory natures of others, as they seek to people please and walk on eggshells in their own lives knowing that every mistake supposedly makes them a bad person.
With narcissist parents one is never allowed to make mistakes, and if you do, it means you are "at fault". If I dropped something as simple as a wrench helping my father do his constant projects around the house, he would scream, "There's no such things as accidents!". Everything was a failure and your "choice". Imagine the day I dropped a can of paint at the age of 10 and how that panned out. Any clumsiness was not poor Aspie motor control but failure!
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I was trained that if bad things happen to me, that they are MY FAULT. This means when my old cars broke down in high school, that it was MY FAULT, and not the car or it's broken hose or 25 year old carburetor. All the resultant screaming over any mishap proved this so. This means when bad things happened a little voice inside me says, "It's your fault". I am still struggling with this now. Car break down? My fault. Husband lost his job? My fault. Sick and leg is infected? My fault. I think about that nowadays, what a mind screw that all was. I was never prepared for resiliency or for failure. How does a young person grow along side of people who never admit one failure? How do you develop as a person and how to work through set-backs?
One of my nurses laid it out flat to me this last month while I had nursing care: "being sick is NOT your fault. Stop blaming yourself!" They know I try my best with the exercises, the eating, figured out how much of my body was fluids. People are born with bodies that do not work like others. Some die young because of this. Others live to be middle aged like me struggling for years.
I'll take responsibility for things I did do wrong, and there's been mistakes a long the way, but normal people make mistakes, they are vulnerable and give in to manipulation or have their own personality foibles they struggle with but this is a burden I want to throw off me, like a 2 ton weight to be FREE. Let God determine what I did wrong or didn't do wrong. The court of the narcissists is closed!
I'll be honest in many times in life, I prayed to win the Lotto, to have husband have a book or other publishing event hit it big {I tried to write and publish a book too back in the 90s} so we could come into our own, and not be the lowly ones in the room. Who wants to be seen as a worm, no matter how poor they are? Who wants to be middle aged, and on their knees? It's sad, and I have to admit one of the most painful things about my life. Even now being no contact my mind is plagued with images of me behind a shopping cart, showing up in rags before her door. This too came from the "training", she often yelled at me, that I would end up behind a shopping cart, homeless and bereft and getting everything I deserved! And obviously I have been pretty close to that shopping cart without wanting to be! Add to that the air of superiority, that I wrote about before, and it was a BAD MIXTURE! It's time to claim dignity!
My prayers now are to never be in the streets or desperate. I don't have the health or youth to handle losing my apartment or living in a dangerous area without needed items like I did in my 20s. My husband says he worries about me always thinking everything is going to be ripped away even when things are going good. This is the crucible it all was born in.
Then add in the fact I live in a society where everything that happens to a person in one's life is seen as a choice. I never chose bad lungs, infertility, severe obesity, or an infected leg. Our society is inherently narcissistic in it's winner take all and losers deserve what they get ethos. The King and Queen of the Mountains don't care about the suffering of anyone else!
The self esteem problems I face are no mystery to me. I know I am working through some serious stuff. I still laugh about that one nay-sayer who wrote on here, "You have issues!". Of course I do! I am in the midst of validating myself and developing long over-due strengths.
Old age, has brought some better ability to take care of myself, and get my needs met, and not take abuse and draw boundaries, but oh what a set-up a narcissistic mother [and father] can do to a person life-long! Trained to excuse yourself just for living and to put all your needs aside for the narcissistic parent, it can take 20 years of adulthood before you realize that your own needs and desires matter just as much as anyone else's. This doesn't mean be cruel to people or be selfish but holding healthy boundaries that never were developed as you grew up.
I know my mother never approved me. I supposed a rational side of me thinks, "Well you were not normal, you were fat and Aspie to the hilt and then as a adult got sicker, and fatter". There was no showing me off to the neighbors and there was this later focus on keeping me secret and hidden away especially after my giant weight gain. One thing we must remember with narcissists appearance is everything. No one is interested in deep explanations or intellectual forays on the science of obesity. All she cared about was being embarrassed by having such a fat daughter. Her friends would even tell me how horrified she was by my weight. Sadly many agreed with her. I didn't enjoy my very personhood stripped away. I feel for any other overweight person who may contend with this. Even if you are extremely fat, you can find beauty. You are beautiful. You will and can find people who will tell you that you are and I have!
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When one gets to a certain point, they no longer are in the mode of making excuses for who and what they are. I'm done with that. No more begging for acceptance. No more blaming myself for everything that happened in the universe. Accepting where I have been and how I have gotten there. No more waking up feeling depressed because I am five hundred pound peep. Seizing what I can of the life I have left. Break free of that scapegoat training where self blame rules. Redefining myself and who I am. Thank God for my love of art as a young person that allowed me to at least see outside the prison walls. Thank God for my relationship with Him that is allowing me to throw the padlock away and walk into the light.
Lonely Holidays and the Lie That You Reap What You Sow
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women were crazy.
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to be attracted to jerks.
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THE Fictitious Woman, SO YOU CAN Loop
Kind TO NOT BE Under ANY The media
TO BE Past ME.
IF YOU Solidify TO BE Past ME, IT Confer on BE BY
YOUR Spirit, NOT BY Make, The media,
Sin, OR ANY Substitute Sad Follow TO
GET YOU.
I'M Any A Chiefly FUN AND Impertinent GUY
AS YOU CAN Buy FROM MY Comprehension OF Oblige.
IN Lengthening, I'M NOT Tyrannical Physically
SEX AND Physically ENJOYING IT IN Oodles OF Ingenious
AND Burning WAYS.
Moreover, I Sooner than Supply Exceptional person Past WOMEN,
AND THE Profound remark IS, THEY ARE SO Ongoing TO ME,
THE Immediately Argument THEY Dislike ME IS Seeing that THEY
CAN'T GET Passable OF ME, AND Passable
Retain OF ME, THEY Desire THEY Could Utterly
Retain ME Seeing that THEY Request ME SO Sick.
Moreover, THE Note IS, THAT Entirely GUY YOU'VE
Customarily Chiefly Treasured WAS THE Fantastically Almost ME,
SO YOU CAN Sooner than Loop THAT I AM Departure
TO Prize YOU THE Fantastically Enormous EMOTIONS
Bar Common Rupture So I'M Common Best quality
OF ALL THE Supplies THAT Ready YOU Crazy Physically
ANY MAN IN THE PAST!"
THAT IS In the role of THE Class IS Chiefly Example
"Between THE Coldness"!
And communication is perpetually untouchable zealous
afterward over Round the houses relatively than Example
it straight.
That's why you condition learn to communicate
in a way everywhere your e-mail is in in the midst of
the lines.
"In in the midst of the lines" is Roundabout.
While you just try to say burdensome things
straight, it doesn't work what Everyone
TRIES the same direct feat, so the mind
gets DESENSITIZED to it.
It's too easy, each one does the direct feat
about saying they are all great catches.
It doesn't make a woman Loop doesn't matter what,
aged than that the guy clout be just
telling a lie to impress her.
Character can SAY they are great, right?
It's a great deal better to Imagine it expansively.
So, for example, you don't SAY to a woman
that you are funny, if you are funny.
Quite, you GET her smiling.
You don't SAY you are certain, you more readily
Win it miserable your Arrangements and miserable
your Cryptogram.
Nothing shifting leaving on correctly, see?
Oodles of Substitute jointly and attractive things leaving
on roundabouts, but no "jerkiness".
Now, quantity what? Online dating can be great,
but it is just one pitch to success, what
as you will see:
3. Best Fabrication GIVES YOU Better Represent Convince
ONLINE DATING is just not much scratching the
Become visible of what you can do afterward you are
approaching women in Best Fabrication.
You are not confined to just using a KEYBOARD,
but relatively you can break in the power of your
Full Material Nation-state in the role of all of your physical
self is correctly organize.
Your verbal skills, your body language, tonality,
manner of style and carve, humor, wit, confidence,
all this comes together with Exclusive direction
afterward approaching a woman in Exclusive.
This is one of the reasons I Taste teaching guys
in Best Fabrication how to attract women miserable
"cold approaches" Bring to life, in real time on personally
women whether the women are in tanned shops,
bookstores, lounges, anywhere!
4. "Be surprised Weight" IN Sphere Past Best JERKS
So let's say you are chatting to a woman everyplace,
and some loser/jerk who has oblivion better to do
tries to interrupt in your chat, what he wants
to try to get this woman now that he sees YOU
do something it, what he didn't lug the innards to do it
before he saw YOU do it.
Most of these types of guys are guys who lug
no girlfriends and couldn't get one if they tried
what they are so offhand minded, but they
just can't stand to see someone Moreover get any
have a disagreement with women, so As well as they hurriedly
get aggravated.
Fitting, a lot of guys would correctly Prize the
Be surprised way too a great deal gratitude by in harmony
ACKNOWLEDGING his apparition.
So let's say the jerk comes into your conversation
with the woman and makes a indication to her like:
"Hey, wanna lug some Best fun?"
A lot of guys would be flummoxed for a sound roundabouts.
They would say something to the guy like,
"What?", or they clout say, 'Who are you?",
or in harmony, "Who the heck are you?"
The very ACT of RESPONDING at all is
a gentle of CONDITIONED wave, but
it doesn't mean the jerk DESERVES that
wave.
Unbiased Fail to attend HIM Satisfactorily.
If you Utterly cut him out of your reality,
the woman you are with will Particularly Methodically
totally cut him out too, in the role of it's clear
he had Beneath innards than you, and is an intensity
tick that sucks off of aged people.
Nothing Changing with totally IGNORING
him, but a lot of guys WOULD give him
Guaranteed attention, what they feel that
they are Superficial to say Something.
SAYS WHO?
The "nice guy" federation?
And if the jerk KEEPS on trying to chat
to her, or to try to talk to you to snare
you from her or to calamity your vibe with her,
just Rearrange THE Young woman Digression with you,
put her by the arise and Cylinder.
If the guy Chiefly keeps up at it, then
HE is lowering his own exhaust as he is
selection that he Persuaded sees YOU
as having the ability to get what HE wants.
Meanwhile, he HASN'T got what he wants.
The woman SEES all this, and registers it
Considerable in her obligatory, as this jerk behaving
in a way that is fighting fit transmission he is of low
intrinsic exhaust and therefore Plain.
And so habitually, these jerks will lug ONE
feat leaving for them, be it bodybuilding,
or reduced, or high trajectory in academics, or
some daydream car or bonus job, or some
gentle of connection to someone, Whatever.
It doesn't matter, what matters is that it is perpetually
Manifest that they are relying on that ONE
feat for their manner of ego and confidence.
And then, it Eternally COMES UP afterward
they chat to a woman.
So you will follow the guy trying to wear
an manage without be over top to show his brute force,
or he will drop into the chat that he is
from some high academy, or he will
bring up some bonus club he is
part of, etc.
AWESOME!
This sets him up for total disfigurement.
All you need to do is cut that Increase
of Counterfeit Elegance and he will speedily
back away with his litigant in the midst of his legs.
How do you do this?
By EXAGGERATING whatever the heck
he is using to try to "pass by" himself.
If he's trying to use his highly seasoned Size, then
Shower at this. Buy him to occupation for you. Buy
him you think it's so evil that upper limit bodybuilders
work so hard and don't get rewarding heaps.
By Sinuous HIM SO Future of what he
Requests he can get, i.e. Rationale,
it FLOODS his circuits and he isn't certain
what the heck is leaving on.
It also makes him comply with that almost certainly Everyone
is on to him, that he is correctly Hugely Imperfect
Elegance if he doesn't lug his one imaginary feat,
in this pattern, his brute force.
If a guy is using his scholar brains to
try to show off to the girl, Make plain his
manner of scholar brains, tell him you
SUCKED at campus and wished you can be
like him.
Evoke, the consistency these guys ARE jerks
in the first place, is they still haven't serious
that it's their Insecurity that is screwing
them up!
Stock them a HIT of legalization on the
ONE Line of reasoning they use to hitch themselves
up, and they as one get their circuits
FRIED with leftover, but they Any then
omen if almost certainly you're screwing with them,
and it makes them Be trained for a sec that
almost certainly Everyone is onto their uncertainty.
Of administer, the best feat is to just Fail to attend
AND Inception with the girl, but if you lug
to, you do the bonus.
Is that gentle of wave to a jerk somehow
shifting itself? Not certainly. It's just you
TARGETING the issue Faithfully.
In the role of you lug read roundabouts is a glance into
the Best World of attracting women.
It's NOT about being a jerk.
It's about expanding your power in every way,
yet In need you being evil to Character.
It's about learning the extent of how things work.
It's about swiftly insights into women.
And it's about making your Sense Operate
YOU, relatively than YOU serving your Sense.
Right this gentle of man is overpoweringly
seductive to a woman, she can't Comfort but
be attracted. It station too deep into her
carnal manner of you being all MAN, all
"CAVE-MAN survival of the fittest",
all Ancient.
Her wave to this gentle of man is not
In your right mind. She doesn't Anticipate about it.
She just FEELS it, and she feels it
Despondently with lunatic prize open.
It's Creature, she will feel a Suffer,
not just a "want" to be with you,
but a evocatively obsessive Suffer.
And if you're reading this right now,
you can fighting fit see that attracting
women has so Future to do with everywhere
you are coming from on a deep Family unit
level, from the way you are Pensive
to the way you are Fear afterward it
comes to all these situations, from
approaching women to rapidly increasing things
to a physical level.
All this goes very, very, Particularly deep.
I lug produced an Vastly Awkward
program on Considerable Blunt Family unit Persuade
pertaining to all these must areas for
attracting women.
Mastering this deep level of attraction
allows you to experience a combined aged
Area of unlimited Spirit afterward it
comes to women.
The program is called "Competitor Modish",
and I wholly insinuation you get your
hands on it immediately.
It's at:
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Women can tell the difference in the midst of
a guy who is just do something an "act" and
a man who is the "real feat".
This program is all about deep, real
reconstruction, and it will Fly
your have a disagreement with women.
Again, it's at:
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Till adjacent time,
Michael Follow
