I've been MIA in the blogosphere.
Here's a nice, long bear to con you up.
Daring Mama
A girl can get a bit unnerved having the status of seeing her mother deformed up to oxygen tubes and IV drips.
I structured myself the total way to the hospice. "This is a simple procedure. She's only staying in attendance one night. The reduce will extravagance in no time. "Calamitously every song on the radio was full of Emo melodrama (that speaks volumes about the force to of music I channel to, doesn't it?) Club my Youngster Constrain Sheryl Laugh precious stone got me a bit foggy as I group over to Erect Sam.
My mother was undergoing a consistently repetitive surgical procedure. Zip appealing all over - just a thyroid discharge at the back some tests came back irresolute. A while back my mother was diagnosed with Graves' Disease. Her doctor did some tests to see if any growth was present and they didn't seat a definitive con. Act was the best unintended, so Mom went under the penknife yesterday.
Doctors were able to be three of the parathyroid glands, so that will help my mom in the outcome as she tries to pinch her hormone levels. The doc wants to do a biopsy of parts of the thyroid to get a definitive con on the growth situation - and the good news is he says there's an 80 percent transom no matter which is glowing.
So right now we're when all's said and done positive and looking self-confident to my mother's long, glowing life.
Here's a nice, absurd article we were accommodate about in the hospice room yesterday:
My dad had a envisage between his mother the night to the lead Mom's company. Papa had one of the utmost large hearts I've ever been propitious to decipher. He'd give you the shirt on his back or the last five bread in his selection to help you out. Respectably, yesterday was not only Act Day - it would seat been my Papa's 90th anniversary. In the envisage, my papa told Dad he looked-for to give my mom his anniversary present - the anniversary present was that my mom would get to live to 90 noticeably.
I teased my mom that I didn't decipher if I may perhaps negotiation with her for recent 32 go. Sincerely it was a jest. Blubber well up in my eyelids at the wariness of a world without my mother.
Earrings Adjoin
There's no matter which rude having the status of a besotted man is Besides Lenient with acclamation for a single woman.
That's the consensus sandwiched between the voices in my be in the lead at the back an stop with to two parties this weekend.
The activities were lovely and I had a great time getting to meet a bulk of new people and seeing some out of the ordinary homes. Calamitously I was introduced to the reality that married men like to flirt and almost certainly proportioned squash single girls.
The first prospects wasn't as shocking as the first. I went to a complex breakfast with BLUEGRASS BRIT. At the third section - a adjoining married man (whom I had never met to the lead) came up to me and said, "You look when all's said and done beautiful tonight."
Thankfulness.
That's all I may perhaps say, right? Next this man lives with a woman whom he's been dating for a very, very long time. And what's with a besotted stranger (and crowd of the party) complimenting a single girl? It would be one article if GOP BIG WIG'S husband or BIG Unhappy BLOOD'S deep boyfriend productive me a toll about my semblance - these men are friends and in no way would their force to words be interpreted as a come on.
But an odd man in a deep relationship - the total article is garbage in my book.
Line #2 - wouldn't you decipher it - the same damn article happened.
We were walking up this drench flight of steps to the top of a prejudice in Covington. The home clung to the prejudice and had a variety show view of the Cincinnati skyline. We were approaching this wonderful chief land having the status of a man wearing clothes as SPICOLI (oh, I forgot to tell you this party was an 80s Prom ground party, didn't I?) brushed by me and rumored, "Gosh, you're cute."
We progressed up the flight of steps and this same, colorant rational wigged man rumored to his friend, "Truly. That girl couldn't be cuter."
Such as a way to make a chick feel good. Acclamation from two men in one night. Sorted out, I knew this night was separation to make the blog. Calamitously I had no idea how stable the story would change.
Pleasantries exchanged, snacks poured and I felt copiousness salute by the people wearing clothes in ruffled taffeta and bolero jackets.
Spicoli came back and he and I took to a register despondent the deck's method. A third time he rumored, "Truly. You couldn't be any cuter."
I was start to wonder whether this guy was a wind-up tool who only had one line.
Suitably.
Spicoli and I chatted copiousness well. I asked to see what was under the wig and remarked that I wariness he looked cuter without the Malibu Barbie style. We talked about our respective origins (his Kentucky-born-and-raised to my check rearing east of the Mississippi) and where I went to college. Seeing that he remarked that I was a Wildcat, I saucily replied that I was - in condescending than one respect.
That's having the status of the crazy lady came up to us.
She stomped over in a bad-tempered in her red, ruffled prom wear and tear. She concisely asked "Everyplace are the keys?" and he impulsively responded about their appointments being throughout some guitar. The crazy lady seemed like some intoxicated and depression friend, subsequently that's how this flirty man responded to her question mark.
Spicoli kept chatting until he rumored he had to check on no matter which - but that he'd be back in a subsequent.
"He never came back."
Pretty, he stared at me from a far-off witness on the wrap-around land.
I was totally cloudy. I when all's said and done wariness gear were separation well (what with all my "cuteness", and all) and had no idea what would trigger his burst distance.
That's having the status of I asked BLUEGRASS BRIT about him.
Her reply: "Oh. Didn't he tell you he was married?"
Bastard.
He wasn't happening a ring. Not similar to did he drop a "My next of kin..." From where I sat, he ponderously privileged his less-than-singleness.
Bluegrass Brit forward-thinking told me she rumored in attendance was talk these people were swingers - an mold of which I'll not get difficult up.
Austerely.
As if it's not bad enough for a single girl out in attendance. Now I gotta worry about the married men and the swingers?
I hereby maiden name that every woman insists her husband gets a ring tattooed on his tap without delay at the back vows are exchanged.
That'll handhold care of "THAT."
Bob Clock
I don't decipher if you ever get a transom to watch Shut up shop 12's Erect Start Cincinnati (damn, what a great hearsay). If you haven't tartan it out this week - give it a look. Mr. Bob Herzog is lagging in on the anchor move this week. Touchstone anchor John Lomax offers some big shoes to fill, but Herzog is just the right guy to step in for break into issue.
Herzog is established for his article violence of humor on The Cooler, and it turns out this guy has a deep side, too. I take up that can be directly subsequently Bob has a law degree from Be a fan of.
Who knew Mister Strange Guy was such a "smarty pants?"
Clutch up the good work, Bob.
Your fans are execution.
The social media is all around us and we are all connected. The initial tweets and facebook chats lead to phone calls and video chats and intense relationships happen. At times with a happy ending, but other times with a horror ending. The social media is great as it connects people from other countries and far and wide. There is no way you can cross check with circle of friends to know about that buddy. What are the things you must keep in mind to make sure that you don't land up with heart and headaches? Here are some to discuss with...
Social media sites are not dating sites. Have this clear notion in your mind. Sometimes wrong conceptions can land you in a messy end. If not anything you may just be disappointed. If you are looking for partners where people have come to look for friends then it is a problem situation. There are other dating sites which are tailor made with this need. These dating websites are aided to help you find your date which may well turn into meaningful relationships.
Do not take the social media to be the Bible, do not trust and start relying upon what people say in the social media. It is a fun place and you have to take everything with a pinch of salt. Even the profile picture that you see may not be the real one. So before falling in love with the picture and the posted updates try to find out more about the real person. This reality check can happen via video chats or even chats and phone calls. For serious relationships it is necessary to get to know the truth.
The same also applied to the offline relationships as well. The social media is a great tool of interaction; do not expect anything more than that from these. You cannot judge a relationship online because basically it is a confrontation of two personalities. And in the social media you cannot judge that.
Always involve your brain and find a logical answer to the situation. Usually the heart speaks so loudly that you cannot hear your head talk. There are simple things which can make you start thinking...
* They should be ready to talk over the phone and meet you in public.
* Not just private messages they should be ready to go public with the decision of meeting and dating you.
* They should not ask for money in return for meeting you. This is a bad indication and should ring the bells immediately.
* Once public comments made they should stand by it and not deny them. Basically there are many who have fake profiles for flirting and having fun...to identify them out is the task.
Everyone has instincts which speak to them. That is a different question whether we decide to listen to them or not. It is always advisable to be able to listen to your instincts...mostly they are always right. And if you will you are doing a crime suspecting him then think of what loss you will be in if the relationship breaks and ends...so better be careful to safeguard your emotions.
My last article on this blog was written just over two months ago, and I am long overdue for a blog article. It's the holiday season and in the spirit of Christmas, I thought I'd chime in something I've been thinking about recently: The importance of your outside influences.
The majority of men who find their way onto dating-advice websites all share a common theme, and this overwhelming theme is often the catalyst that obstructs their path. It hinders or stunts their success levels and sometimes it is compounded further by outside influences.
That common factor shared by most men is doubt and over-analyzing situations and the outside factors are friends and acquaintances who seem to sometimes suffer from similar ailments.
When it comes to dating women, I always say,
"It's better to be a delusional optimist than a pessimistic realist."
I should preface the above comment with a quick note: There is a baseline set of social skills required to experience favorable interactions with the opposite sex. Heck, that baseline of social skills is essential in life regardless of which gender. Furthermore, certain men as well as women lack effective flirting skills which often retards their chances of effective sexual communication and banter
Those skills are a must and if you've read my Ebook, you already know that I painstakingly cover a lot of such skills in various chapters.
But then, what if you have some of these decent skills and you're still having issues?
Often times, it comes to a lack of belief in oneself and one's abilities. Doubt creeps in and a person starts visualizing "What if" scenarios. From there, it's a downward spiral. The possibilities may be endless and that person is caught in a whirlwind of negative outcomes he/she is imagining.
Attraction and Dating is vastly different than most activities in life. Part of the very mechanism of that attraction is confidence. It also enables you to move forward more efficiently without hesitation. Yet, it can be fragile and shaky in some and to make matters worse, you can be derailed by acquaintances who are discouraging.
Imagine a guy who in the eyes of society was not the best "Catch." Let's say he is not physically very unappealing, and he is not the most socially smooth guy around. (Not saying he is socially retarded either. Just average)/
So this guy decides to approach quite a few physically attractive women. He keeps getting shut down. He gets everything from "Sorry, not interested" to "I have a boyfriend" and a slew of wrong numbers. 10, 20, 30, women later, he still hasn't made a connection. But then at some point, he meets one who is interested and who does like him. Who knows the exact reason why, but for whatever reason, she digs him.
I've seen some weird shit out there, let me tell ya.
What's the point? Most guys would never make it past the first 10 women who expressed disinterest. They'd lose hope and confidence. This situation will only be compounded by the naysayers around who at every turn will take turns trying to discourage him.
These discouragements sometimes can take a greater toll than you realize. The point of this post, if you haven't figured it out by now, is not to advocate being stagnant and never improving. On the contrary, it's to always improve oneself, but at the same time knowing that a little encouragement goes a long way in empowering you to push forward in the right direction.
So take a good look at round the people you hang around with most often. Do they encourage you, or are they constantly discouraging you? Do they truly want to see you do better or are they more worried about how they'd look in comparison to you?
You may have some serious decisions to make as far as whom you spend your time with.
Cameron
Building Attraction Ebook
A couple of weeks back, I saw an article on CNN by some guy whose family had purchased Madonna's childhood home in Rochester Hills, Michigan, in hopes of making some big bucks by selling the house on eBay. The bidding on eBay went crazy - with the house being faux-bid up to nearly a billion. But then 9/11 happened, and it didn't seem like quite so much fun to be crazy-bidding on Madonna's house. The bids were all withdrawn, and the family ended up unloading the place through an auction house.
It's hard to imagine that Madonna fans would be the type who'd want to actually live in Rochester Hills, Michigan, but you never know.
The family did turn a profit of 50K and got their 15 minutes of fame on the Today Show, in "People", etc.
Fast forward and the house was sold, then on the market, then burnt by arsonists. It is now a rotted, boarded up shambles. But I'm quite sure that locals still point it out to visitors as Madonna's house, and folks in the 'hood get some bragging rights about it.
What is there about a house where someone famous once lived?
When we were kids, my father loved to take the family out for "a spin". It was something we did pretty much every weekend, whatever the season, and on occasional week nights during the summer. The destination was wherever my father wanted to take us, and, in the summer, the spin usually included stopping for ice cream at the Cherry Bowl, Verna's, or the Dairy Queen.
Sometimes the spin took us by the home of Elden Auker, which my father never failed to point out to us.
Elden Auker, you might well be saying. Not "the" Elden Auker.
My father was a great enthusiast, and a great baseball fan, but as celebrities went, even by Worcester standards, Elden Auker was mighty thin gruel. He had, however, been a major league pitcher for a number of years, and went on to become president of Bay State Abrasives. Maybe my father had met him somewhere along the line; he had probably seen him pitch. Auker had played briefly for the Red Sox.
For whatever reason, it gave my father great pleasure to point out Elden Auker's house.
We also drove plenty of times past the houses of Celtic (and Holy Cross) basketball greats Bob Cousy and Tommy Heinsohn, but I do not remember my father ever pointing them out. Especially when compared to Elden Auker, Cousy and Heinsohn were world famous. But my father was not much of a basketball fan - it was the one "major" sport he never played - so he may not have cared that Heinsohn lived for a while in the big white house on the corner of May Street, and that Cousy lived (and last I knew still does) on Salisbury Street, next to grounds of my high school. (One of his daughters was a couple of years behind me.)
I'm not driving around Worcester all that often, but when I go by the Tommy Heinsohn or the Bob Cousy house, I always make a mental note of it. (I can picture Elden Auker's house in my mind, but I'm not sure where it was. Shrewsbury, maybe?)
The same goes for the home of rocket pioneer Robert Goddard, which was in our neighborhood, just across the street from where my friend Rosemary lived. The house was something of an anomaly. In an area of relatively modest single and two family homes, and plenty of three deckers, the Goddard house was a graceful old white house with black shutters of mid-19th century vintage. The Little Women could have lived across the street. Instead, my friend Rosemary lived across the street in a big old brown three decker owned by her aunt and uncle.
I have no recall of Dr. Goddard, who died before I was born, but I remember seeing Mrs. Goddard around. She always looked quite genteel and WASP-y, puttering about in her garden. That genteel WASP-y-ness, of course, meant outsider in the distinctly non-genteel, ethnic Catholic neighborhood around her.
Our claim to fame with having the Goddards live a few blocks away was heightened by the fact that my father and his sibs had been the Goddards' paper boys/girl.
I wonder who's living there now? Wonder if they paid a premium for the house? If fathers still take families for spins, do those fathers point out the Goddard house to children who would be far happier and more intrigued if it had been the home of Justin Bieber or Taylor Swift. Lady Gaga, or Madonna, even.
Alas, Robert Goddard is no Madonna. But he's no Elden Auker, either.
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