"What's your name?"
"Can I buy a drink?"
"So what do you do for work?"
"Are you from around here?"
"What do you like to do for fun?"
"What kind of music do you like?"
She politely answers all these interview questions and the guy thinks he is making progress. Until she starts looking around the bar, getting restless and bored looking for a way to get rid of him. She comes up with a lame excuse to get back to her friends... and it' s GAME OVER. Soon the next guy will take a shot, he offers to buy her a drink, asks her about her job, and the cycle repeats...
There is a sequential process you can follow to build effective conversations with women, cause them to feel attraction towards you, and get the results you want-whether it's getting her phone number and seeing her tomorrow, or taking her home for sex tonight. This process is completely different from how most guys attempt to pick up women. Listen in on a typical conversation at a bar between a guy and a girl he"s met, and you're probably going to hear him ask a series of questions like the ones I mentioned before.
So why doesn't that conversational strategy (or lack of strategy) work? Well, there are a few reasons...
1) IT'S COMPLETELY UNORIGINAL
Nothing about the conversation is stimulating her imagination or distinguishing him from the last 57 guys who approached her and hoped to get in her pants. In reality, he could have been a cool guy with a lot to offer. But because he didn"t demonstrate any of this during the conversation, she sees no reason to continue the interaction.
2) NOT SHOWING INTEREST AT ALL
By asking her these questions (and certainly by offering to buy her a drink), he might as well have a flashing neon sign on his chest saying 'I am trying to get in your pants'. She knows he wants her, and by making this obvious he has surrendered his power and control. He's not asking her these questions because he's genuinely interested in knowing the answers. He's going through those motions because he's hoping to "get lucky."
(And for the average guy, it all comes down to getting lucky. Skilled pickup artists don"t need to rely on luck; they execute a plan.)
3) THE CONVERSATION DOESN'T SEEM TO BE HEADING ANYWHERE
Women hate feeling "trapped" in conversations with guys they"re not feeling interested in. She knows that as long as she plays along and answers his questions, he"ll keep monopolizing her time. Obviously he has nowhere else to be, and no one else to talk to-which is a sign of a man with low value. If the first three questions he asks are lame and predictable, imagine how boring this conversation will be if she allows it to continue for another half-hour?
4) HE'S NOT RAISING HER ENERGY LEVEL
This conversation gives her nothing to get excited about. She came out tonight hoping to have fun; he"s not providing any. She could have this same conversation with her dentist, or with one of her mother"s friends. She worked hard all week; why should she waste time on a Friday night playing 20 questions with some low-value dude?
5) HE'S NOT MAKING HER FEEL ATTRACTION
This is the big one. There is an art to making women feel attraction through conversation, and once you master it, you'll never have to go home alone again. Attraction, for women, is not a conscious choice. Sure, they might say they're attracted to tall guys, guys with muscles, rich guys, cute guys, etc. But when a guy comes along who knows how to flip her attraction switches-even if he looks nothing like her mental picture of "Mr. Right"-she will want to have sex with him.
Women are hard-wired to feel sexually attracted to men who exhibit certain qualities. (We're talking about biology here. Women today are hard-wired the same way they were 10,000 years ago.) We'll cover these qualities in a moment-and the good news is, you've got them. All men do. It's just that very few men understand how to showcase these qualities in a way that makes women feel that "sexual spark"-and even fewer know how to present themselves as a challenge that women will actually chase.
So lets have a look at how you should handle it
by Dean Cortez
Origin: pickup-for-girls.blogspot.com
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