Not the usual subject matter covered by the Archive but recently we received an email from Anna Miller -
Hi Gary,
I work with Onlinedegree.net, where we just published entitled "10 TRUE ONLINE DATING HORROR STORIES" Considering this overlap in subject matter with your blog; I thought perhaps you would be interested in sharing the article with your readers?
The Archive is always eager to oblige and so anyone fancy a bit of online hanky panky, then be warned:
Online dating sites may have overcome the stigma that its members are all unattractive, nerdy or desperate, but there are always some losers that manage to slip through the cracks. It's unfortunate that people have to go through so many bad dates before they meet a winner, but without their candid stories and words of wisdom, we might never know that these dates from hell actually exist. Here are 10 true online dating horror stories:
* NIGERIAN DATING SCAM: We can see from this hilarious online dating story that Nigerian scams aren't just about money - some of them do it for love too.
* MUNCHKIN MAN: This anonymous dater took a trip down the yellow brick road when he met this munchkin man, who looked nothing like his picture.
* GREAT ESCAPES: Read how Jill escaped her date with the bad boy on a bike, who turned out to be just a bad-looking boy with a hot bike.
* THE TALE OF STINKY BREATH: Here, Lorina talks about her uncomfortable encounter with Stinky Breath, a self-described "tall, athletic blond" who turned out to be the complete opposite of that and more.
* TOO GOOD TO BE TRUE: After this train wreck of a date, Anne reminds us why you should never let someone pick you up at your house, or make you listen to ska music.
* THE SKEPTIC: This proud skeptic shares his story of what it was like dating a political junkie and how he fell for a doctored photo.
* FARTING FIASCO: Check out poor Linda's story about meeting up with "Bob" and how the date really stunk, literally.
* PUPPET SHOW: Here, Beth tells you why sock puppets on the first date is never a good idea.
* SEXY SPITTER: Brad's date may have had all the makings of a good girlfriend, but he definitely needed a spit shield to survive this one.
* EL CHEAPO: Check out Mary's story of El Cheapo, the cheap date who shouldn't have been dating.
Hey shark,
I've been following your blog for a while now. Your blogs are very much enlightening, even for a girl.Well... I'll be hitting college soon and i'm improving myself with your advices here in the blog, I know that the female male dynamics are really quite different, but I still do most of what you say nevertheless. This isn't really related to the article above but I want to ask for your advice. Does doing these stuff help me game other people, whether it be another girl (same sex) or guys? Well, I actually have no trouble in attracting guys. Lately though, I've been wanting to game other girls- even if i'm also a girl. Yeah, I guess i kinda swing that way at the moment.
Some of my best friends actually tells me that they've noticed that there's something about me that makes me very much appealing, especially to the same sex. (girls) At first, I had no clue- but after reading most of what you've wrote, I think it's because I act and am like an alpha female in my inner core. Also, i'm not like the other girls who dress and sit pretty while batting their eyelashes, I love action and hate indecisive people. Well, can you please give me tips regarding how to improve my game as a women- towards guys and girls, but leaning on towards the girls. (I've been reading a lot of materials too since I really want to improve my internal and external self, all of robert greene's book and etc) As soon as I get my credit card, I'm planning on getting your book (the black flag).
P.S - I'm not the typical feminine girl... My style is usually casual or sporty, I love videogames, reading, writing- quite tomboyish as one may say, but I do look /have feminine side, and am not butch.
(sorry for double posting, but I accidentally posted this on an old article. I was thinking you might not notice so I put it here instead.)
From what I can garner based on the bisecksual/illuminated women I know, gaming girls for you will be like assaulting a single barrel of fish with a tactical nuke shooting fish in a barrel. Women of such natures are granted a combination of sublime traits and favorable circumstances; A lethal intuition, the innate secksuality of women, and unbelievable value ratios. Even without a real secksual impulse, just a basic knowledge over the mere existence of game will set you eons apart. The key though, will be to retain your feminine secksuality while exploring the dominant aspect of the masculine. Watch or read The Girl With The Dragon Tattoo for a good example. Aloofness, amused mastery, ambition; these are traits that when displayed by a girl, other women are inclined to stare in awe. If you lose in touch with your femininity however, you lose that edge. Remember people are drawn to what they cannot understand, they revere the mysterious. A decisive girl conveying power and knowledge while intertwining this dominant attitude with a lucid secksuality takes on whatever form she chooses; never to be restrained by a label.
If you haven't already, pick up Robert Greene's The Art of Seduction, it will be more valuable to you than The 48 Laws of Power. Like the combination of asshole + lover I so often endorse for men, you must seamlessly tangle paradoxical traits. Be audacious yet coy, dominant yet feminine, active yet patient. It seems from your description that you already understand this and are on the right track, now it's just a process of perfecting and maintaining.
The women I know who have at one point or another exercised game to influence the social mechanics around them aptly fall prey to three dangers inherent within girl-game itself. The first being that they tend to get Oneitis, and do not realize that there's no way to "game" around it. In an ironic twist, the problem is exasperated by their very strengths. You see how you find it so easy to get guys? It's whimsical. Because girls with game and looks are so far and above in value from everyone around them, they RARELY find men they are TRULY attracted to. An average girl might get Oneitis for a guy, but her attachment can quickly be offset by any other average guy able enough to game her. A girl like you will find a guy worth getting Oneitis for so very infrequently that when it happens, her hypergamous nature goes into full throttle. But the catch-22 is that the guy in question does NOT see her "value," because men are NOT hypergamous, they are polygamous and shallow. She begins wondering why she can't "game" him, and gets trapped by her own dependency on the one guy she's met in the last year who can give her an endorphin rush worth chasing.
The second being that all of humanity is a giant cesspool of crabs pulling each other down. The girls around you will be only be mystified if your status far exceeds theirs. If they see you within clawing reach, expect waves and waves of turbulent envy. As cliche as it sounds, they will do everything within their powers to pull you down to their circles of bickering and gossip. You of course, must remain untouchable. As Lee put it, "Don't get set into one form, adapt it and buld your own, and let it grow, be like water."
And finally, the notoriety of the spotlight. Power Corrupts, even within the microcosm of friendship. When men get too much attention, they are more likely to adopt an arrogant attitude. Mixed with a bit of wit, you have Cocky/funny, which translates to chick crack. Without the discipline of an overarching life mission or a guru, cocky/funny can aggravate itself into an obnoxious mixture, but these guys still get pussy. With girls, it's a bit different. Jerks who are losers, but are still cocky/funny, will benefit from their attitude. Girls who are cocky/funny (obnoxious), will not. Girl confidence MUST be refined confidence. Think Tomb Raider instead of Jersey Shore. Obnoxiousness has no payouts and will only brand you as try-hard. It does the same thing for jerks, but you won't receive dividends of intimacy the way a guy will. The danger of this accumulates over years. A girl starts out with a powerful and passionate personality. People are drawn to it, from other girls to other guys. Slight bursts of dramatic gesticulation gives her huge returns in attention because her preordained status demands it. But slowly, she relies more on these bursts to give her attention. Her interest in other activities wane, and voila; she turns into what she so would detest the most. ATTENTION IS INTOXICATING FOR WOMEN THE WAY POWER IS INTOXICATING FOR MEN.
All of this means you must, at all times, remain vigilant of decay. Stay focused on the things that you love in life, and elevate yourself beyond the chatter of people who would pull you down. I think a quote from an exceptionally accomplished female will fit here, "GREAT MINDS DISCUSS IDEAS; AVERAGE MINDS DISCUSS EVENTS; SMALL MINDS DISCUSS PEOPLE." If you think it's easy for you to get guys now, wait till you're older. With a tomboy personality that retains the touch of femininity, men will come in droves and bow to you. It will be crucial to keep your mind away from them, to obliterate the instinct to tell them "how you feel," or what you're thinking about someone else because they will ALWAYS be volunteering to hear you speak. As Greene will more clearly confide through his work, the greatest female seduction artists kept themselves out of the reach of those around them, that was the key to their charm. Rarely would people know, let alone understand, what they were thinking.
Confidence, within girls, is most attractive when it is godly, indomitable and internal. Unlike men who can benefit from its abrasive use, women only suffer the label of "attention whore."
This is all you need. A confident internal state, a taste for the things you already have a taste for, and to be weary of the follies I listed above. You need not seek girl-game because it will COME to you. I would go so far as to say you already have too much of it, the difficulty will lie in keeping it through the years. Men have a problem with adopting the crimson arts, but their impulse to relinquish it is lessened. Women have no problem with adopting the crimson arts, but their impulse to relinquish it is great.
But all of this, comes with a price, one you won't recognize for years on end. I know of only one girl who has moved past everything I've mentioned and remained at the pinnacle of her identity, it would be hard for me to say she is happier than the other people I know. She looks around and thinks of how dumb all of her friends are. She looks around and sees not a guy worth captulating too. She has lamented to me before that she feels a deeper emptiness, a complete loss of faith in humanity. A fantasy is paved in orgasm, passions of power, fits of lust, but at the end of it is not one climax to end all climaxes; at the end of it is only disillusion, an eternal abyss.
You don't need to wait for a credit card, I e-mailed you the book. Also look into Profiles of Female Genius by Gene Landrum. Landrum takes a more psychoanalytic approach and offers insight absent in most mainstream advice for women.
Impartially noticeably all women consider become insane. It's not that they turn away from logic (in actual fact, they are somewhat good at coming up with rationalizations). It's that they suffer the loss of the lion's part of their efforts seeking out insane situations, attractive in insane behaviors and just about destroying themselves and anyone stupid bounty to reach a decision them the lowest amount bit of say in their lives. The fundamental is so intense......don't give them horizontal the lowest amount bit of say in your life. One time I say lowest amount, I mean it. No matter what they ask for, no matter how mild, you condition say no to it. You condition never ask them for whatsoever, horizontal the simplest, furthermost smallest amount of occurrence. If you want no matter which from them you condition tell them to give it to you. Despite the fact that you say it perfectly, it condition be a nonstop. The very second they say no to you, you need to hollow them.
It's sad to say, but that's what it takes just to stash a woman from ruination your life, which she will do 100% of the time if you don't do this. A woman can and will move on, at last to find one who will let them liquidation their life for them. Not bounty men identify with about this yet, although plentiful director identify with about it today than just a few economical living ago. Eventually, furthermost men will identify with it and women will consider few to no options for this. They will consider to change or do without. It will have control over with relationships first. Few to no men will get married each meeting and a great plentiful men will seek wives from outdoor cultures. Moment, these incredibly men will look at women in the work place and ask, "Hey, do these female force consider merit?" You'll find few women being promoted unless they can do the job. Thug to change will be the bench, as director and director, it is open that Supreme of the female issues in appointment are based on untrustworthiness. Supreme rape bags....untrustworthiness. Supreme alimony/child (mommy) support based on untrustworthiness. It will become very cooperative for bench to distress a woman is treachery about undoubted issues.....very with carry to non-stranger rape and harshly no matter which with carry to divorce.
Allay, it all starts with one simple word.....no. No is the air of mystery word that will defend you from women.....today. No, we won't get married. No, you can't move in with me. No, I don't want to meet your parents. No, that kid isn't mine. No, you can't consider any cremation. No, I just don't want a monogamous relationship. No. No. No. No. NO.
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BY DARRYL JAMES
How sad is it that in today's economy, women are still complaining about how much men spend on dates?
Really?
First off, dating is supposed to be a process by which two individuals get to know each other. If you already have rigid standards and expectations of people you haven't even met, chances are things won't go well when you do meet.
For women who are on this silly program, think about this: What if the man you expect to spend a certain amount of money on a date, has expectations of getting you naked the same night? Would you judge him for having unreasonable expectations? Is he being unreasonable or are you?
Who is right and who is wrong? Who is to say when there are no real standards in dating anymore?
Let's be honest (even though it will make a lot of stupid people angry): The women who claim to be "old school" to excuse their unreasonable standards and expectations are full of it. Women in the "old school" actually used to cook for dates. Women also used to be polite enough to go with a man to wherever he took her, even if she didn't like the place, but especially if she liked the man. Why? Because it was all about getting to know each other.
It's just sad that so many women are complaining about where a date took them or how much he spent, but not many are conversing about what they contribute to the dating process, as if men owe them something because they want to get to know them.
And we've all heard dead brained loser women state that men who are unwilling or unable to spend "enough" money on dates shouldn't date.
So, because someone who doesn't know you and may not even like you doesn't want to invest in spending money entertaining you, they should go into dating exile?
Slap yourself.
I've used this example in discussions about dating to make the point clear to people who still have active brain cells: Our president, Barack Obama was not only low on funds when he met Michelle, but he was UNEMPLOYED! She helped him get a job and certainly didn't chastise him about not being able to spend 200 on a date. Why? Because she was interested in being his life partner, not some line item in his dating budget.
Let's do the math here: If a man spends 100 on dating four times each month, he will spend 400 each month, which equals 4800 per year. That is the equivalent of a car payment or the down payment on a house. If a woman is seeking to be a life partner, I doubt that she would want that kind of money to be blown. Now, if she's just looking for the good time, then she shouldn't judge the man who is also looking for the good time...
A fair exchange is no robbery.
Now, I realize that the math may be a problem for stupid people, but frankly, the people (men and women) who think it's reasonable for a man to be judged by the amount of money he spends on dating are stupid anyway.
Sadly, the biggest problem is that dead-brained morons believe that everyone has the same belief set. You can use the cost of a date to show the fallacies of modern dating, but the bigger reality is that relationships and marriage have been diminished by boneheads who have rigid expectations of people they haven't met yet, but want those people to be open to their expectations.
Men paying for dates comes from a time when women were either unemployed or underemployed.
How do we move into an era where women are crowing from the mountaintops about making more money than men (whether it's true or not), yet still expecting men to pay their way?
Now, here's the kicker: that time I just spoke of was never on deck for African Americans. After slavery, Black women went to work just as did Black men. Now, if a Black man earned more than a Black woman, he would likely pay her way, but they rarely, if ever, discussed how much the man should spend and where he should take her. That's some new ignorance.
Today? How about men and women go on dates prepared to pay their own way so that the focus can be on getting to know each other?
For every woman who complains that men are cheap, a man is complaining that women only care about getting money spent on them. Neither discussion does anything to improve the marriage rate.
Dating, relationships and marriage are all about partnership-all about sharing. If that is the goal, why start off by NOT sharing?
It all comes down to money. Who pays the cost?
"Darryl James is an award-winning author of the powerful new anthology "Notes From The Edge." James' stage play, "Love In A Day," opened in Los Angeles in 2011 and will become a feature film in 2012. View previous installments of this column at www.bridgecolumn.proboards36.com. Reach James at djames@theblackgendergap.com."
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Roughly speaking are some red paper chain I use to tolerate an Asian guy from discussions all over the inspection process. I deduce they will figure like habitual cologne for utmost of us, but at hand are young black girls reading this blog who may not bind perception of some these equipment, and it may help them to learn how to vet an Asian guy.
Red Flags:
- He league like Tupac. Yeah... no.
- He exactly believes he is the only Asian guy to bind ever expressed an responsibility in a black woman. I trap this a LOT.
-He expresses some distinction of the opinion that I bind been yen for an Asian guy for ages but bind been incapable to attract one, and he will be my central character by allowing me to touch the hem of his sheathe. GTFO.
-He makes an opinion that I am sexually loose and that he can just bind sex with me, such as late all, I'm a black woman.
-He thinks all American women(of all races) are sexually loose.
-He assumes that I am seeking an Asian man such as I am unpleasantly of being used and abused by broke-ass deadbeat black men, and now I want to find a guy with a good job so I'm thinking Asian. AKA career me a golddigger. (Study how what a ashy or asian girl wants a guy with a job, she has principles and habitual cologne. While a black woman does, she is a golddigger. GTFO.)
-He finds his own Asian countenance inoperably unattractive, and believes that Asian men are less sexual, less masculine, and less respectable than erstwhile men. This caring of shakiness makes it available for him to should think I am attracted to him for himself, so he either thinks I am rationally ineffective OR that I bind some ulterior time. It can as a consequence lead to vigorous and jealous way of life.
-He listens to American hip hop or rap music. This stuff is leave full of loathing for black women! If it appeals to him, he either feels the incredibly way or his mind is being polluted and turned against the awareness of me as a gorgeous loveable woman anticipated for a earnest relationship. No way.
-His parents are intolerant. I'm NOT departure to silt my time with a man whose parents will break us up. Unless he can spectacle to me without delay and perceptibly that his parents are not departure to board, I will NOT think him as a mate. Quite a lot of guys free from blame they will have the courage their parents but truthfully I want tranquillity relations with his family. My ex-husband's family heartfelt loved me. It is probable, and it's what I want.
-Any slightest ridicule of an sign that he carries a torch for ashy women. If he wants a ashy woman he needs to go and get one- I'm not ashy and never will be. I'm not departure to be his bedwarmer because he yearns late Misplace Ann.
-Any say about how I'm a great attain only such as I'm an uncharacteristic black person. Nope.
-Low level of education. I bind seen tons of Chinese-American or Chinese immigrant guys with only a GED or only a high moot permit impartial. Don't should think the ballyhoo that it's only Cambodian, Thai or Laotian guys with offspring education. Organize are lots of erstwhile Asian guys who lack the basic qualifications to make available. I'm getting a PhD, and yet these men think they are on my level as anticipated matches! GTFOOHWTBS. Would they think an Asian or White woman with a doctorate would carry them? No, of avenue not. But a black woman is self-styled to be happy with snippets. NO! Out of financial directive, at hand is a compatibility issue. I extremely increase in value education, and I want a guy who feels likewise.
-He tries to fill me that alllllll erstwhile Asian people (esp men) are totally intolerant and he is the only one who isn't. He is either trying to apart from me from considering the advances of erstwhile Asian men OR he is in fact intolerant too such as he considers it to be the mean.
Over the years, the trend in dating over the world have changed. No more staying in long queues and hanging around in bars and pubs just to catch a glimpse of your potential hookup.
Thanks to the world of modern technology, we are now able to go online dating without leaving your room at all. With the availability of computer and internet, we can now communicate and have an online relationship. This may sounds a little bit crazy but is now the trend of the modern day life on dating and socializing..
In online dating, one is able to specify the exact kind of person they are looking for. All this could be done by joining an online dating service.
Nowadays, there are quite a number of online dating services available in the internet. Basically, online dating services consist of like minded people like you who wanted to socialize and make friends with each other in the internet. If things go well, it may also turn out to be a good relationship developed.
Some online dating services require participants to subscribe to their websites. One good thing about online dating service that required subscription is that their members are assessed before joining and hence giving better safety and security.
Some online dating services prescreened their members before allowing them to join. This is done for the safety of the participants and in return, subscribers are asked to make monthly payment.
In online dating services, generally members are required to create a profile which include things like age, gender, nationality, interest and hobbies. They may also include things like preferences of the type of people they are interested in..
One of the main reasons people choose to participate in an internet dating service, is that so many people are doing it! Technically speaking, this increases an individual's chances of finding the right person that's meant for him or her.
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In addition, with the availability of an online dating service 24 hours a day, it is simply irresistible. One can log on to their online dating service any hour of the day.
If they are bored, staying in bed because of a sore throat, or they just feel like staying at home on a weekend; they can always check if somebody is trying to contact them through their internet dating service. They can browse through other people's profiles and try to seek out the one that strikes their fancy!
There are online dating services that are absolutely free! This is good news for those individuals who are new to the world of online dating services. For people who just want to have some fun and try something new can try out these free services first, and see how it suits them. They can then move on to the more exclusive, by subscription internet dating services, once they've gotten the hang of online dating.
However, one have to be cautious as with online dating services, not everyone who participates, tells the absolute truth! So it important for participants to practice caution at all times.
An internet dating service doesn't require participants to meet the people they interact with in person. This decision entirely belongs to the participants. So it is important to always keep one's wits about, and practice logic, when engaging in these online activities. This will also ensure the safety of online dating participants, and also allow them to have maximum fun!
I bet that you are excited to meet the attractive people out there. Login to Online Dating Service today and you are one step away in finding a romantic relationship in the internet.
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Linguistisch bezieht sich die auf Sprache - Abbildungen, Reverberation, die GefГјhle (kinГ¤sthetisch), Geschmack, Geruche und WГ¶rter - diese du Gebrauch, an sinnvoll einer bestimmten Erfahrung sich zu erinnern und zu sein (oder eine zukГјnftige Erfahrung prognostizieren). Z.B. kannst du dein FrГјhstГјck heute morgen zurГјckrufen? Wann du, zu frГјhstГјcken, kannst erinnerst du dich eine Abbildung in deinem Verstand sehen, oder kannst du Reverberation hГ¶ren (mГ¶glicherweise war ein Transportation eingeschaltet, oder du nahmst an einer Diskussion mit deiner Familie) teil? Was Гјber Geschmack und Geruche? Und wie warst du das GefГјhl -, das glГјcklich ist, mГјde, aufgeregt? An einen bedeutenden Dip in deiner nahen Zukunft denken. Stellst du dich vor, erfolgreich zu sein? Oder Ausfallen? Die Abbildungen, die Reverberation, die GefГјhle, der Geschmack, die Geruche und die WГ¶rter, denen du pflegst, zukГјnftige Erfahrungen zu beschreiben, beeinflussen, was wirklich geschieht. Du verursachst deine eigene Wirklichkeit! Programmierend bezieht sich deine Gewohnheiten, Gather together, Programme und auf Strategien. Wenn es ein Arbeitstag ist, folgst du einem bestimmten Programm, wГ¤hrend du zur Arbeit fertig wirst? MГ¶glicherweise magst du im Bett liegen ein Different, fГјnf Minuten nachdem die Warnung ausgeht. Duschst du, oder, sofort zu baden oder zuerst frГјhstГјcken? Wenn du Zeit dauerst, was zu betrachten du tust, bin ich sicher, daГџ du ein Gather together siehst, dem du beim Werden fertig zur Arbeit folgst. Wenn aus irgendeinem Grund du nicht diesem Gather together folgst, findest du dich GefГјhl, das etwas fehlt? Du hast Gather together, Gewohnheiten, Strategien und Programme mustache alles, das du tust. Einige dieser Gather together dienen dich, aber andere nicht - mit dem Ergebnis der unerwГјnschten Resultate. Du kannst einige deiner Gather together vГ¶llig berГјcksichtigen. Du kannst anderen bewuГџt werden, nur wenn jemand anderes sie zu deiner Aufmerksamkeit holt. Und du kannst beschlieГџen, Гјber diese Gather together schnell zu vergessen, weil du dieses Teil, deines Lebens zu adressieren vermeiden mГ¶chtest. Und es gibt noch andere Gather together, daГџ du nicht an alle berГјcksichtigst, dennoch fahren sie fort, zu beeinflussen, wie du um dich kГјmmerst, mit anderen verstГ¤ndigst und deine tГ¤glichen Aufgaben durchfГјhrst. Wenn die Gather together dienen, du - positive Resultate in deinem Leben das heiГџt, erzeugen - groГџ! Jedoch wenn du findest, daГџ einige Gather together dich nicht dienen, wГјrde es nicht nГјtzlich, jene Gather together zu kennzeichnen sein und sie as a consequence sie zu Г¤ndern funktioniert zu deinem Vorteil? Frage: Wer setzte deine Gather together, Gewohnheiten, Strategien und Programme an der richtigen Stelle? SelbstverstГ¤ndlich du. So kann wer sie Г¤ndern? Nur du. Aber zuerst, muГџt du bewuГџt werden, daГџ du diese Gather together laufen lГ¤Ð“ÑŸt. Dieses ist eins des grГ¶Ð“ÑŸten Nutzens von NLP - werden bewuГџt den Mustern, Gewohnheiten, Strategien und Programme, die du dann NLP Techniken, um sie zu Г¤ndern, um die Resultate zu erzielen laufen gelassen instinctively und benutzt hast, die, du wГјnschst.
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