YOU'RE DATING OR SLEEPING WITH SOMEONE ELSE: EXPLAIN.
Girls these days don't expect monogamy if you've just met, but if you've gone on more than a few dates with either one, they both deserve to know. Just do a gut-check. If you feel like you're doing something underhanded, then you probably are. If you are having a one-night stand and you hang out with the girl a few more times after that, you should tell her. I'd say after a month people usually have a talk about whether they're exclusive or not. If she avoids the conversation, it's on you to decide whether you want to force the issue. I wouldn't.
YOU'VE CHEATED ON HER: APOLOGIZE.
Then apologize some more. With flowers. Repeat steps 1-3. And if you are a decent person, never do it again. Yeah, we all make mistakes. But learning from them is what makes us loveable again. It will take her a while to get over this one, and she may never trust you the same way. Just be there for her. If you're unhappy, leave!
YOU'VE BEEN DEPRESSED OR UPTIGHT FOR NO REASON: EXPLAIN.
Therapy is all well and good, and more power to you if you can go, but sometimes the daily grind just gets to us. Especially in this crazy city of ours. She should understand if you have a few off days. As long as you aren't acting incredibly aloof, annoyed, or insulting her, you shouldn't apologize. Don't play around though-let her know you're upset, but that it's not her. Give her a winning smile and move along.
YOU'VE BEEN DEPRESSED OR UPTIGHT FOR NO REASON AND HAVE BEEN TAKING IT OUT ON HER: APOLOGIZE.
Not cool man, not cool. We all need a way to vent our stress. Some dudes jog, some dudes play racquetball until the strings on the racquets break, and other dudes are passive aggressive until their relationships break. Don't be the latter. Apologize if you've been making "her" feel terrible just because "you" feel terrible, and explain why you've been down. Yes, sometimes talking about your feelings is necessary. She may even be able to help.
HERE ARE SOME THINGS TO AVOID WHEN APOLOGIZING:
-Don't buy her things, except expensive flowers. She might take your "peace offering" as an insult, as if you're trying to buy her forgiveness. Tsk, as "if "you would do that! Unless she asks for something, just be sincerely sorry and that should be enough.
-Don't rush into the next stage of the relationship or tell her what you don't really mean out of guilt. She will know why you suddenly want her to move in after you've been dodging the subject like you've been avoiding the tomatoes in the bottom of your refrigerator. And being dishonest again will just make everything worse.
-Don't blab to mutual friends about your relationship problems during the fight or after you've moved on from the argument. They will probably be uncomfortable getting involved anyway if they're close to her, and you could lose their friendship if you can't move on. Save it for your siblings!
-Don't take your apology back in a future argument. It's unfair and immature. Just leave it be, and she should too. Otherwise, the relationship's not that strong anyway.
WHAT TO REMEMBER:
If you want a healthy relationship, be understanding of her feelings if you've done something wrong. Put yourself in her position. Would you want an apology if she did the same to you? Don't keep your pride and lose the relationship.
How to Get Her Back after a Breakup is a post from: How to Attract Women - Gotham Dating Club
Credit: art-of-kisses.blogspot.com
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